I have Written this Post a Thousand Times in My Mind.
I have Tried to Find the Humor, a Positive Spin, etc, but Failed.
My Husband Left Me for Another Woman...
You May Remember The Insurance Agent I referred to in My RandoMissy Posts; She is Now the Proud Partner of My Scum-Bucket Husband!!!
I had Suspicions for a Few Weeks, but with Three Children, Aging Parents, etc. it is Hard to Get Out and Hunt Your Husband Down!
"Summer" finally Mustered Up the Nerve to Call Me and Confess the Entire Affair.
She called While I was Three Hours Away in the Hospital with My Mother.
I Suppose She Thought She was Safe!~
She was.
He was Not!!!!
I Left My Mother in Caring Hands, Returned Home to Retrieve My Children, Made Arrangements for Phillip to Leave My Home, and Contacted a Lawyer.
Now, We are Waiting on Paper Work, Visitation Agreements, Division of Assets and the Mending of Broken Hearts!
I have Not Had the Time to Process the Betrayal, but I Know I Must Take the Time to Face this and Deal with the Consequences.
Life on the Farm has Many Great Distractions for The Kids.
McCoy knows What has happened and has been such an Awesome Help with The Girls.
They ask Daily where Their Daddy is and Right Now, the Answer is "Work."
I hope I feel some sense of Relief after Hitting Post.
Just Typing this has Brought about Many Emotions; Anger, Sadness, ANGER...
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Missy, I am shocked and heart broken for you and your family. You have had so many troubles lately, more than anyone should have to deal with at once.
Stay strong
Wow. HOW could he could do this to you, especially with everything else going on?! I know you try to find humor in everything, and sometimes, when you need it most, it just isn't there. I cannot imagine what you're going through right now. I'm angry and sad for you!!! I'm so, so sorry. One day at a time, I'm truly praying you have the strength to move forward for your Mom, yourself, and the kids. ((BIG HUGS))
Sending prayers! How horrid! Lots of love to you.
I have no words... I am so sorry for your pain. Big hugs. Stay strong.
What a nightmare. I am sorry. I'd be angry too!
Oh, Missy....I am so sorry.
Missy - I am so sorry, and I am terrible with words for things like this. But know that I can empathize and feel a little of your pain - sending good thoughts....
holy shit, what a douche nozzle! as if you don't have enough to deal with, you need to heap this on top. no wonder you want to walk around with a flame weilding chainsaw! i think you've earned the right.
Aye, Missy... read that between the lines of your last post.
From the bottom of my heart, I'm sorry for your betrayal. I understand it.
I would suggest we all converge on your farm and have a ... weenie roast. I'm game to go hunting for.. pig.
:-)
Take your time, process but whatever you do, do NOT blame yourself, promise me this..
I am always amazed how at our low points people we are leaning on or hoping to lean on chose that time to show us their not who we thought they were. I am so sorry you are having to deal with all of this...my prayers and love go out to you. Hang in there...YOU are more than any of this experience.
Hugs~
I am sorry about everything...things will get better with time.
I think I have a bright side for you NO MORE TONI!
Not much, but a thought.
Thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.
Seriously?! You have had to endure so much.
Sorry dosen't seem enough. But I am praying for you and your family.
Cathy
God I'm sorry...even though that isn't enough to help you right now.
Been there and I get it. I could share with you the stages but that may not be what you need right now.
I send you big warm hugs and pray for the strength you will need to move forward. Remember to feel it all. Don't surpress it, be open with the kids with as much information as appropriate and above all else take care of yourself!!
We're all here for you.
He what? THAT JERK!!! I am so sorry, Missy. On one hand, you're so busy you don't have time to really dwell on things, which is good in some ways, but on the other it prolongs the inevitable. You will have to deal with it head on. You have friends around here who will be here to give you support! :)
Oh honey, I've missed you so and to hear all that has been happening is just heart breaking! Hang in there! I don't even know what to tell you as I am just reeling with all of this, but know I am thinking of you!!
Way back when I blogged about my weight loss I think I mentioned something about what my husband and I were going through. I feel for you and I know how confusing all of this can feel. One minute you want to stab him with a spork , the next your blaming yourself. Let me say this, HIS IS TO BLAME FOR THE CHOICES HE MADE. I'll be thinking of you.
Holy shizz!!!
Well frick, that seriously bites chica. Thinking amazing thoughts for you, and extra, extra crappy thoughts for him.
I am so sorry. Words cannot express the grief in my heart for you.
I have been there. There is really nothing one can say to make you feel better. Just know that you are loved and this was HIS choice and NOT your fault.
Sorry is not enough...
My brother cheated on his wife while working out of the country. He left her on Mother's day, then found out the woman was only using him to try to get into the US. It was terrible. I spent many, many hours with her, just letting her talk, vent, and cry. All I can say is be strong but let yourself grieve. Take advantage of your friends and support system to help you get through this. Don't try to do it alone.
My SIL took some time to figure out what she wanted to be and who she was. She renewed friendships, became more active, and allowed herself to enjoy life even while her heart was broken and she cried herself to sleep at night with hurt and anger.
Hugs...
So sorry you have to go through this. My prayers are with you and your family. Praying something different for the douche bag.
I am so sorry to hear this news. What a crock of shit! I will pray for you, your mom and your children. I just hate to think of your little girls losing the stability of a father after being adopted not that long ago. Damn it all to hell!
Oh dear, I was so worried, with your last post title NEW LIFE....that maybe we were going to hear something like this.
I don't know why I thought that, some strrange intuition...
I truly am sorry. I know this must be extremely difficult for you
and what rotten timing...with all the other HUGE responsibilities and challenges on your plate right now.
yup...scumbag. He couldn't tell you, the girl had to.
That must have been "quite the phone call".
I imagine your mind is a whirl of activity right now (anger among them), but you'll have time to sort it out, and deal with things, emotions,.....after all the logistics of a divorce are in order.
I am glad you posted it....I too feel like it is theraputic to WRITE IT OUT...
very sad news indeed Missy, all of us in blogland will be in your corner.
holy moly, my comment went up 3 times (so it was me that did the deleting.)
like your husband....go ahead and hit the DELETE button
Wow, that is really stooping looooow, to put that on you in the first place, but when you are going everything with your mom? Des.pic.a.ble.
what can we say other than...sorry, and we are here for you? HUGS
Take care of yourself
All I can say is wow....been there....my ex will be marrying his "friend" (which is what he told the kids she was from the start) the day after Thanksgiving. Do we ever get past these emotions????? Praying for your peace girl....I know you are strong, but as I well know, sometimes I want to throw in the towel and say I am tired of being strong...
Men!!! So sorry that you have to go through this mess with so much on your plate right now.
I've been out of town and away from the blogging world, so sorry I didn't see this sooner. I am so sorry. I'm mad at him, I'm sad for your kids and I hope his life goes to shits! You are strong, I know. You'll get through this. I'm just sorry that you have to. Hang in there girlfriend.
I am so sorry Missy! I hate to hear this is happening to you and it totally sucks! You are a wonderful woman...strong and beautiful! Never forget that...
Love to you and your kids!
I am saddened to hear about your troubles.
I, too, got the surprise of my life when, after a 40 year relationship (36 of them married) my husband decided to leave.
I started blogging about it and it helped. Unfortunately my blog is very public with my identity so I can't always say exactly what I want....but maybe that's a good thing.
I will enjoy reading back through your blog. Just found it tonight.
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